Your Divorce Filings Are Permanent Family History: Here's What Your Kids Will Learn
Sasha Casey is going viral on tiktok, because she went to the courthouse and filed for the public records and went through the divorce records of her parents.
Then with a red pen, she encircled every lie her father told in court, to her, about her, just to get back at her mother. And while she doesn’t say this, it that had to have broken something inside of her. Their relationship was already strained but this revelation didn’t help matters.
Nobody warns you that when you file for divorce that your adult children can one day walk into any courthouse and read every financial mistake and personal failing. Imagine your adult child reading that their father "consistently prioritized his golf games over family obligations" or that their mother "refused to contribute financially while spending recklessly on personal items.”
Do you want them to see you at your most vindictive? Or do you want them to see someone who protected their dignity even while protecting their interests? It's all sitting there in public records, permanent family artifacts, waiting for the day they get curious about why their childhood fell apart.
Should they read them? That depends. Are you operating like this whole matter happens in the dark, or are you operating knowing that details of this disillusionment will come to light?
Other filings stick to facts: irreconcilable differences, asset divisions, custody schedules. Clinical. Respectful. Focused on logistics rather than revenge. Your divorce filings aren't just legal documents. They're character witnesses for the parent you were when it mattered most.
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